Growing up in Vancouver, WA a predominantly white areaI remember feeling a discomfort toward my features. This adjective was supposedly meant as a compliment, but the meaning of that word is "introduced from another country, not native to the place where found. We are not anchored in the same way, making it easy for us to lose our identities or feel lost trying to navigate the intersection between our cultures.
Earlier this year, I went on a date with a man who told me he had a thing for Asian women. We were sitting across from each other at a table in a fancy restaurant and he stood up to do a head-to-toe scan of me. I am sick of being fetishised because of racist stereotypes about "small and compliant" Asian women.
He hates it when I do this. So do I, really. We live in San Francisco, so this dip is as common as the hills.
It was somewhat of a non sequitur from the conversation. He proceeded to give me a knowing look before launching into a monologue about his ever-enlightening travel experiences and exes overseas. He grins at me.
An Asian fetish is an obsession with or objectification of Asian people, culture, or things of Asian origin by those of non-Asian descent, especially when it is related to stereotyping. It applies to the enthusiasms experienced by some non-Asian people for such things as Asian cinema tattoos made up of Chinese characters  or the adoption of Asian children, especially to the exclusion or diminishment of other cultures. Asian fetish is a slang expression derived from sexual fetishismwhich in medical terms is a sexual fixation on a nonliving object or nongenital body part.
I groaned as all the signs I had ignored collided like pieces of Tetris and sank deep into my gut. It was a Saturday afternoon and I was sitting in bed browsing through Bumble. I had been on this supposedly classier version of Tinder for about two weeks.
Kat Chow. Elise Hu. A recent study on data from a dating app found all women except black women were most drawn to white men, and men of all races with one notable exception prefer Asian women.
Bear with me haha. You know, ever since I hit middle school, I always knew I was socially awkward, nerdy, annoying, and just, you know… one of those kids at the lunch table everyone snickered at. I watched Star Trek and Naruto, read Homestuck, wore fedoras to school, always chased after girls way out of my league, and begged for attention.
Richard Spencer, a white nationalist, has dated a series of Asian-American women, according to one of his ex-girlfriends. Spencer insists that it was before he embraced white nationalism. The right-wing agitator Mike Cernovich, the writer John Derbyshire and an alt-right figure named Kyle Chapman so notorious for swinging a lead-filled stick at Trump opponents at a protest in Berkeley, Calif.
Asian men in Canada often fret that the laws of supply and demand are working against them when it comes to hooking up with the right woman. Are men with Asian ethnic origins justified in feeling anxious these racial preferences are actually operating in North American dating? Ronald Leefounder of a relationship service for Asian men in Metro Vancouver, believes Chinese, Japanese, Korean and other men with East Asian roots who make these complaints are looking for excuses to avoid facing their social awkwardness. Ronald Lee believes many Asian men in Canada have trouble facing their social anxiety.